A state when someone feels that they are exposed of a potential attack, physically/mentally or emotionally. Henceforth , the time period when someone is feeling vulnerable can be termed as the vulnerability window, as at that moment ones defensive measures are diminished, compromised or lacking.
Being vulnerable is a part of life, we as humans need to go through all emotions. We as a society are not yet very well equipped to handle vulnerability as an emotion. When someone is vulnerable , they need to be comforted and made to feel that someone is there for them. Be it a kid or an adult , everyone is vulnerable many times in their lives, just like we are happy or sad or ecstatic etc. It’s a false assumption that only kids need to be taken care off , yes they do but adults too need to be taken care off mentally and emotionally.
Adults generally are not aware of expressing their feelings in general. Even if they are, they do not find too many people who may want to listen and understand, to comfort them. And, even if they do find someone , it is mostly in expectation of something in return. We very rarely find someone who is just there for them to listen and comfort them, without any expectation. If you do find someone like that, try as much and be around or keep them around in your life as very rarely you may come across someone like that.
Coming to gender , women are vulnerable and they tend to show that or are equipped to handle it. Also,we consider it okay for women to be vulnerable at times in life and if they show that , that’s also looked upon as not a big deal. But, when a woman is strong , opinionated and has a mind of her own and a point of view , she does not fit into that mold of being a women i.e. being meek and submissive.
There is extreme contradiction when we are talking about a man. A man should be strong and be able to handle everything that comes his way and others as well. If a man is vulnerable and shows it, he is considered weak and not manly. Men also are vulnerable and should be allowed to show that feeling within their personality. Similarly women can be strong and should be allowed to display that as a part of their personality.
Actually , men and women are made to complement each other, be it any relation in life. In a lifelong relationship, vulnerability is one of the most important feeling that partners should embrace and encourage communication about it with each other. If we share our feelings and emotions in the weakest of our times to our partner, that makes so much of an impact on the bond, that it grows from, being together, to not being able to live without each other, that’s how a relationship should be. Accepting each other’s flaws and weakness is the ultimate foundation of an excellent and fulfilling long term relationship.
If a person is vulnerable and they are not allowed to be themselves and don’t feel supported , they can go into a shell, to manage their vulnerability and create a facade around them, for the world so that no one else knows when they are vulnerable. Unfortunately , we live in a society where people are accepted for being fake to fit in and judged for being real or themselves.
Vulnerability is beautiful and just like any other trait in a human being it exists and should be embraced. Being vulnerable is a state of being weak and if we have someone for sharing that moment , so that it passes without much damage , it could be a beautiful moment that did allow a person to be vulnerable and learn from it.
Opening your heart to someone , at times better’s both the people, the one who is opening up and the one who is allowing the other person the comfort to open up and share their deep feelings from the bottom of their heart.
To all the people who are reading this, embrace your flaws and vulnerability, that’s how we allow ourselves to grow and evolve, which in turn is the whole purpose of being alive. Summing it all up , we can say that “Maybe life isn’t about avoiding the bruises , but it’s about collecting the scars to prove we showed up for it.”.
Do Not give in and always feel vulnerable when you want to, make the most of that vulnerability Window so it makes you a better and stronger individual.
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