The boy talked to mentor on 19th Jan and 9th Feb 2029. He had a very lengthy conversation with the mentor on 19th Jan’ 2029 of more than 3 hours. He was trying to handle and understand everything to reach a closure and help the mentor to help Krupa, but the mentor had a complete block about this idea and was stuck in a Social Stigma. The boy anyhow was an independent and progressive individual and had different thoughts from the mentor. The mentor wasn’t able to handle anyone who wanted to have a healthy discussion with her, for an evolved person it was a healthy discussion but for the mentor it was something that she was not equipped to handle and got flustered.
The conversation he had with the mentor on 19th Jan’ 2029 was something like the boy trying to understand why the mentor was against this. But the mentor was trying to portray Krupa in bad light so as to de motivate the boy from thinking about her any further. But the boy anyhow knew that she is the one and the mentor did not have anything concrete to tell him that he should not think of proceeding further. The boy did discuss about the call all 3 had on 24th Dec’2028 and things that were discussed in it. He mentioned why did the mentor tell Krupa anything different than what he told her on 15th Dec’ 2028. He only told the mentor about the feelings he had and the mentor conveyed to Krupa that he is blaming her. The boy also questioned the mentor and mentor agreed that he was not blaming her which was a complete contradiction of what the mentor told on the call they had. The mentor ended the call all 3 of them had saying that “Chinmaya you are blaming her completely which is totally wrong”, instead the boy only told the mentor about his feelings and the mentor wanted to blame her like every time she reprimanded her, she did the same and unfortunately Krupa believed whatever the mentor said.
In the entire conversation, the boy told the mentor that this will happen and him and Krupa will be together. Actually he said that this has already happened in future and they just have to reach that day in time and experience life from there on together. The mentor was questioning her character the whole time and trying to portray her in a very negative and demeaning way, which the boy did not buy at all. The boy knew that Krupa was a woman of supreme character and very correct moral values, she did face a lot of issues earlier but stood very strong in all situations. In fact that’s one of the qualities that the boy admired about her.
The mentor told the boy to divert and focus on spiritual evolution, as for the mentor love was a disease and she didn’t want the boy to feel the way he felt for her as the mentor had been stuck in social stigma for a very long time, even though being evolved spiritually since a few decades. The mentor never appreciated Krupa for living her life the way the mentor wanted her to, rather kept on taunting and judging her. The boy also confronted the mentor asking her if she has ever told both of them, Krupa and her husband that they both were at fault and not just Krupa but the mentor could not herself believe that the husband was at fault, this came from a very age old thought of patriarchy. The mentor herself has faced major issues in her early years of life but she overcame those by evolving spiritually but in the process she killed all her emotions or feelings for a life partner and that’s how she wanted Krupa to be and live her life the way mentor lived but again they both are different human beings and expecting the same from Krupa was completely ridiculous. The mentor wasn’t able to comprehend that there could be someone who could go against all odds and be with the women he wanted to without any fear of Society.
The boy also had been noticing that the mentor never left a chance to praise the husband and demean Krupa. That happened once in front of the boy also, and as Krupa used to respect her, she never retaliated. Krupa wanted validation from the mentor but the mentor always used that emotion of her, to push her in the direction, from which she was trying to recover for quite sometime but due to the mentor’s demoralization she wasn’t able to fully recover. The mentor was trying to hint that Krupa never said anything about you and her feelings, she has no feelings for you and this is not deep rooted. But, who is she to decide something two different individuals are feelings or not feeling?
The mentor had put in the condition if she talks to the boy, the mentor will never ever talk to her, that’s how she dealt with Krupa and any situation that she was not able to handle. The boy also told the mentor that once she starts living with me, she will forget all the issues and problems she has faced and will exactly get what she always wanted from her life partner. The mentor was constantly saying that I didn’t ask her to do any such thing and didn’t ask her to live with her husband if she didn’t want to. She was completely negating anything like that and said people do what they wish to irrespective of anybody. The mentor was completely shunning away any responsibility related to Krupa and her life decisions.
She even went on to say that she is getting everything from her husband but she like physical intimacy only, which was totally untrue, the boy knew that. The mentor said the way Krupa conducts herself invites unwanted attention basically saying that she invites the opposite sex to her, the boy was appalled listening to this and thought if Krupa comes to know about this, how much heartbroken she will feel that the person she respects and gives GOD-like status, has such thoughts about her. That’s the moment the boy lost all respect that he had for the mentor, he used to look up to her but he stopped it that day.
He also, again wanted to try and convince her and went to the mentor to talk her into agreeing , on 9th Feb’ 2029 but again the mentor had already made up her mind. She also said that Krupa’s life is not impacted by you not being in her life, basically trying to think about a lot of people and aligning everyone’s life according to her orthodox beliefs. At the end of this conversation, due to the mentor’s inadequacy to handle such situations, she said to the boy please do not discuss this with me again and again, as she can’t handle it. This statement made everything crystal clear to the boy on what was and had been happening from the mentor’s side. As she disconnected all ties between the boy and Krupa, even if Krupa aligned to what the boy said, she and the boy were not able to connect and discuss for coming to a conclusion, irrespective of the boy and her being together or not.
The boy always told Krupa that he will talk to the Mentor and he did. After talking to the mentor he said he will talk to his parents, he did. In the meanwhile, he was trying to convince the mentor about what is the best for all the lives involved in this, Krupa and her kid, the husband and the boy. But, the mentor was mentally blocked to even listen and understand, the truth was that she didn’t want to even think or even try to understand about this. Only the boy and Krupa had the same level of emotional quotient or intelligence. None of the other people involved had anything similar to actually understand anything of that level.
The boy didn’t want his parents to get an impression/image of Krupa from the mentor that was completely untrue, like what she was trying to tell the boy in the conversations he had. The boy would convince Krupa’s parents and family too about them being together but until and unless Krupa says this to the boy, he will not do anything.
Also, Krupa never said a yes to the boy and he went with his conviction so far, just think if she would have said Yes to him, which she will, he would have married her till now and also found someone for her husband to move ahead. She shared a dream with the boy, that she had a few months after their conversations had started. As pleasantly surprising this was to the boy, but her dream and the boy aligned completely, rest was up-to the Universe to make things happen. The boy was only trying to make her dream become a reality. The boy trusted Krupa with his life, that’s the level of trust he had on her.
After all this, the mentor could not say that this was not deep rooted but it happened the way it did as a person who calls herself a mentor was not equipped to handle an issue, made 2 people suffer because of her inadequacy to address certain issues that a mature evolved person can handle easily. The mentor’s priority was always the Husband but she used to make Krupa feel that she is her priority. Mentor always said to leave a couple to resolve their issues on their own but she wasn’t letting Krupa and her husband to resolve their issues as she knew Krupa is only in that marriage because of her. She is insecure that if she does that she might not be able to control further anything in Krupa’s life.
Krupa had a very genuine connect with the boy’s sister, and she was able to connect on a very friendly level with her but one day that also stopped and the boy guessed it that it was another attempt of the mentor to try and cut off every tie Krupa had related to the boy.
Please go to Chapter IV to read on further !
Cosmic Casanova 